Stormy relationship with my scale

[Article updated on 19/09/2023]

Who hasn’t experienced a (questionable) loving relationship with their Libra? Honeymoon periods where she tells you what you want, so perfect… Then most of the time, more difficult periods where she shows you her true face, confronts you with your reality, however harsh it may be, makes you pay tears, clench your fists, change the course of your day, doubt yourself…

Before reading on

I’m not an expert in this field, but I am passionate about nutrition and health.

The articles you’ll find on my site are the result of in-depth research that I’d like to share with you. However, I would like to stress that I am not a health professional and that my advice should in no way replace that of a qualified physician. I’m here to guide you, but it’s important that you consult a professional for specific questions or medical concerns. Your well-being is important. So be sure to consult the appropriate experts and take the best possible care of yourself.

Love, hatred, guilt, disappointment, compulsive need to go get it… What if we finally decided to cut off this toxic relationship we have with our scale?

Prerequisite: when we eat to fill the inner void…

I have always told my patients that diets of all kinds are of no use and will never be of any use until everyone understands why they eat and what really makes them gain weight. Is this an illness? A lack of love? Of affection? Low self-esteem? Conflicts with loved ones or at work? etc… It is important to understand that eating is equivalent in these cases to filling yourself up, comforting yourself, and reassuring yourself.

Once you have resolved your inner conflicts (with the help of professionals if necessary) you will realize that you no longer need to eat to compensate for emotional ups and downs. For some people it will take 1 year, others 6 months or even 2 or 3 years… But when you manage to accept your personality, your story and finally let go… Your (emotional) pounds will go away from them even…

If today they are there it is to warn you, to warn you that something is wrong… So listen to what your body has to tell you… And soothe it!

Be YOU and try to counteract the current hype focused on thinness (the only criterion of beauty…?), the “summer body” (which is so guilt-inducing) and all this misinformation around the woman’s body (and man…) which should be like this, like that… Fit into such a box and above all not go beyond…!

Embrace your uniqueness. The ideal body is there, under your nose, look in the mirror and appreciate what you are seeing… YOU! There are no two like you.

The scale: its qualities and its faults

When the needle tells you your mood for the day, it is too late, the scale has become a source of stress, an object of torture and guilt. We agree to let ourselves be defined by a number, a BMI (Body Mass Indicator), a grid, standards… But is it really possible to define yourself by 65? 78? 58 or 82?

And your personality? Your qualities, your aspirations, your passions?

My patients often tell me that the scales are their guardrail, the one that allows them to control, adjust, balance, reduce, reassure themselves. So yes, why not, but what if you started by looking in the mirror? Wouldn’t you really see the pounds lost or gained?

The scale is an indicator, it provides information especially when you have eating pathologies: thinness, overweight or obesity. In case your health is in danger it becomes a medical tool. It is also used for pregnant women who may develop illnesses if they gain too much (or too little) weight during pregnancy. Yes, the scale is useful from the moment you are at risk. But the rest of the time? Do you need a scale to confirm that you have gone from a 40 to a 42 or the other way around?

Do you want to free yourself from weight? Find a peaceful relationship with your body, food, with a feeling of well-being, lightness and guilt-free?

Start by complimenting yourself, being lenient towards yourself and above all: patience and perseverance…!

Come on CIAO balance, break away! You’ll see, it changes your life… There are other ways to respect the balance weight that corresponds to us… Read more…

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Weight and confinement? Should I weigh myself?

I’m not going to beat around the bush: stop weighing yourself! Put your scales aside during this period of confinement which inevitably leads to a reduction in your physical activity, warm dishes cooked to occupy you and bring you a little comfort.

Trust yourself. Once this is over everything will be back to normal. The body regulates itself, it gains weight and loses it… It’s a balance that is verified over the long term (months and years) so don’t focus on these 3/4 weeks!

I’m not telling you to stop worrying about your weight but simply to accept it and live with it. Maybe this situation confronts you with your fear of gaining weight but this is where you need to have willpower, be stronger and adopt new lifestyle habits.

Remember that it is when we begin to really listen to and respect our food sensations (hunger, satiety and tasting) that we tend to reduce our excess eating.

Put your scale in the closet!

Let yourself be guided by your eating sensations during meals, they regulate you, while this false friend, the scales, is the first step towards the vicious circle of eating disorders…

Long live the diversity of bodies!

There is something for everyone, some like fat people, skinny people, tall people, stocky people, typical people, blond people, brown people ,… Start by accepting yourself as you are so that others see the real person who hides under this shell of shame, of fear of the gaze of others.

Think body positivity! Body diversity is what the media tries to silence every day by always showing us these same men and women who look supernaturally alike, retouched flesh, empty shells that we see in magazines… How sad… Let’s say STOP to this normalization of the body (and our minds).

Open up to others, don’t forget that we are the mirror of others, they will reflect back to you the image you have of yourself. You also try not to judge a person on their physical appearance but on their heart, their humor, their generosity or their intelligence.

Your body is your car, the one that will take you on a journey throughout your life, so take care of it, love it, stop constantly judging it, caress it and stop hating it because it is there. …She just asks to be loved!

How ? Start by divorcing your scale, once and for all… First step towards freedom!